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Thank God Men and Women Are Different

A priceless vein of God’s infinite wisdom and creative beauty can be found marbled throughout the marvelous and myriad differences He established between the two sexes – male and female.

Thank you God for blessing us with “the other.”

“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him’” (Genesis 2:18).

And so He made woman, thereby giving man a chance to think of, do for and partner with his spiritually, sexually, emotionally and physically compatible binary opposite.

And she for him.

Yet our culture today is more me-focused than ever before. We’re entitlement-minded and obsessed with fatally flawed and pseudo-utopian notions of egalitarianism, as well as outcome-based, rather than opportunity-based, concepts of materialist “equality,” “fundamental fairness” and “social justice.”

Dr. Peter Jones, a world-renowned Christian apologist and founder of the truthXchange, gets to the root of this problem by way of a lucid “comparative antithetical hermeneutical system” he calls “Two-ism and One-ism”:

male and femaleTwo-ism:

All Is Two: We worship and serve the eternal, personal Creator of all things. God alone is divine and is distinct from His creation, yet through His Son, Jesus, He is in loving communion with it.


All Is One: We worship and serve creation as divine. All distinctions must be eliminated and, through “enlightenment,” we discover that we also are divine.

Christian writer Jay Wegter summarizes the “Two-ist/One-ist” hermeneutic:

“Paganism is built upon the fundamental oneness of all things (monism). Under the pagan worldview, all is divine, all shares the same substance. Under paganism the “two-ness” of biblical worldview is overturned. It is viewed as false to make distinctions if all is the same. Paganism seeks to achieve spirituality by removing the distinctions which God has made. Global spirituality seeks to obliterate the antithesis which exists between the truths of theism and pagan worldview.

“Pagan spirituality seeks to erase the distinctions between God and man; between man and animal; and between man and woman. Perversion is the inevitable result – the Apostle Paul tells us in Romans chapter one that the overturning of created order will result in unnatural ways of living (Rom 1:24-27).”

“Unnatural ways of living,” as Wegter puts it, is the disordered order of the day in our post-modern, post-Christian world.

For example: “Homosexual androgyny,” says Dr. Jones, “is ‘the Sacrament of One-ism.’ It carries within it the very essence of what it means to worship created things.”

Me, me, me. Same, same, same. Sex, sex, sex.

Marriage, on the other hand, authentic man-woman marriage, is a perfect representation of the Two-ist reality in which we all live – to include our pagan friends, who labor under the One-ist lie.

Two-ism, in effect, is what brilliant worldview analyst Nancy Pearcey calls “total truth.”

Total truth is revealed to us pressed down and running over in both God’s created order, so that we “are without excuse” (Romans 1:20), along with His infallible word, which is the handbook for life – an invaluable gift to all mankind in the form of the Judeo-Christian Bible.

Total truth remains totally true for all, regardless of whether we choose to recognize it or stubbornly, foolishly and pitiably choose to deny it. As Pearcey notes, “Christianity is the key that fits the lock of the universe.”

Indeed, when we slip and fall, gravity hurts, in the physical sense, whether we’re Christian or pagan. Likewise, when we fall from grace – when we sin – death, which is “the wages of sin,” hurts in the eternal sense.

Though we have no salvation from gravity, we do have salvation from sin, in and through the person of Christ Jesus. He sits atop heaven’s throne, along with God the Father, on the decidedly superior flip-side of our transcendental Two-ist reality.

There is we. And there is He.

male and female2God was the first defender of natural marriage. After all, he designed it. Jesus reiterated that design, making it abundantly clear and beyond refutation that marriage is, always has been and always will be the union of the binary opposite, magnificently different male and female of the human creation.

Declared Christ: “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Matthew 19:4-6).

Note that, rather conspicuously, Jesus did not say: “At the beginning the Creator made them lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT). For this reason a male, female or shemale will leave his, her or whatchahoozie’s father and mother, father and father or mother and mother and be united to his or her wife – and/or husband – and the two or more will become one flesh. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.”

So important, in fact, is the natural, God-ordained union of man and wife in the covenantal bond of marriage, that God uses this union as the metaphor for Christ’s covenantal bond to His “bride,” the Church.

Equality does not mean “sameness.” In fact, when it comes to matters of sex, marriage, sexuality, family and procreation – which, by their very nature, require binary and biological compatibility – sameness becomes, quite naturally and necessarily, unequal. It’s a nonstarter. A man cannot give birth to a baby (I demand “birth equality” now!) because men and women are different.

Likewise, a woman cannot give birth to a baby without a man. That’s because, thank God and again, He made us different. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’”

There is “marriage equality” and then there is marriage reality. Marriage exists in the Two-ist reality. “Marriage equality” persists in the One-ist fantasy.

Thank God men and women are different.

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Matt Barber

Matt Barber

Matt Barber (@jmattbarber on Twitter) is an author, columnist, cultural analyst and an attorney concentrating in constitutional law. Having retired as an undefeated heavyweight professional boxer, Matt has taken his fight from the ring to the culture war.

  • Beckah

    I really don’t understand the “marriage equality” fight. First of all, marriage is a religious ceremony. Civil unions are not, but are considered the same by the state. Secondly, most of those clamoring for “marriage equality” don’t believe in GOD anyway, so why the war over marriage?
    We are hurting the future generations of this country. Children are only being confused by this “Joey has 2 mothers”. Also, isn’t it child abuse when two lesbians decide an 8 year old should be put on hormone suppressant therapy until “HE is old enough to decide for himself”?

    • JohnHoward

      Marriage is actually a civil legal status, which has religious significance and the legal act is often performed by the couple’s community religious leaders. But it would be meaningless if it didn’t legally marry the couple, making it legal for them to have sex and procreate offspring, expected and public behavior.

  • Russell Sayce

    Amen…..Matt Barber!

  • seeymour kleerly

    Those guys that WROTE the Bible were incredibly SEXIST. The Creation Mythology of Adam and Eve is goofy enough without it!

  • adrianvance

    You can attribute it to a god who never shows up at church or prevents children from being invalid or terminally ill or chance in nature and wind up at the same place. Anything better tends to persist. We’ve have 3.5 billion years to get where we are.

    Google “Two Minute Conservative,” When you speak fine ladies will swoon and liberal gentlemen will weep.

    • KingofBeers

      Stop plugging your blog. No one cares.

      • Alleged-Comment

        I went there a long time ago and found nothing of interest. Just an old man weeping.

  • doza

    Funny. Liberals like to apply contemporary liberal political points to the Bible. As though liberal nonsense was relevant at that time. As in “Those who wrote the Bible were SEXIST”? What a moron.

  • JohnHoward

    Google “Postgenderism” – it’s the assertion that people have a right to be either sex and reproduce as either sex, not be forced to be one sex their whole life and forced to procreate as that one sex, and only with the other sex.

    It could be done with stem cells that have been coaxed into the other sex, or maybe by organ transplantation, or DNa synthesis. It wouldn’t be ethical or useful and there isn’t a right to do it, so it should be prohibited with a federal Natural Marriage and Reproduction Law that would end same-sex marriage in every state and preserve natural sexual reproduction rights.

  • Alleged-Comment

    I never understood the symbols. Especially the arrow.

  • janis mcdonald

    The idea of the government issuing a “marriage license” (i.e. government interference in people’s private agreements) came about after the Civil War — as an overt act to stop black-white marriages and Mormon multiple marriages. We can discuss the rights and wrongs of gay marriage and children of gays until the end of time — but this ship has pretty much sailed!
    And for those of you who think there was never before a gay pro athlete or a gay marine or whatever — REALLY??

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