When it comes to gay couples adopting children, I am extremely torn.
Part of me says “no” because it is not a traditional family. Fundamentally, children need a mother and a father. Not two mommies or two daddies.
As Dr. David Popenoe says,”We should disavow the notion that ‘mommies can make good daddies,’ just as we should disavow the popular notion of radical feminists that ‘daddies can make good mommies.’ …The two sexes are different to the core, and each is necessary — culturally and biologically — for the optimal development of a human being.”
However, there is still a part of me that says they should be allowed to because there are so many children in the system who need to be adopted. As a person who has always wanted to adopt, I have a special spot in my heart for those children.
As you can imagine, hearing about the gay man who adopted an 18-month-old girl with his husband, and then brutally murdering her a couple of weeks later leaves a lump in my throat.
Matthew Scully-Hicks, a gay fitness instructor, gave up his job to stay home with the two children he had adopted with his husband. However, his seeming “dedication” and “love” were not enough to save their newest child from being murdered.
Elsie, or as Hicks called her, “Satan in a babygrow” was taken away from her druggie mother within days of being born. At this point, I wonder if she’d been better off battling the devils of drugs rather than being placed with the devil who killed her.
The toddler, who was taken away within days of birth from her drug user mother, died in Cardiff’s University Hospital Wales with “catastrophic head injuries”, days after the defendant called emergency services to report that Elsie was “floppy and weak”.
The jury heard how messages sent by Scully-Hicks, who is accused of breaking his adoptive daughter’s ribs, leg, and ankle, and fracturing her skull, suggested he was “struggling to cope” with looking after the toddler and her adoptive sibling.
The defendant wrote that Elsie was having a “proper diva strop, which is annoying” just 11 days after Elsie was placed with him and his husband in September 2015, in a message echoed the following day, when he accused the baby of having had “another diva strop at teatime”.
Alleging that he was “going through hell with Elsie”, the 31-year-old also wrote: “Mealtimes and bedtimes are like my worst nightmare at the minute …She’s been up there screaming for 10 minutes non stop she’s just stopped but I doubt that’s the last I’ll hear tonight.”
Several sources say that Scully-Hicks could be yelling at the baby, “Shut up you little F*cking brat,” and “shut up you silly little c*nt.”
If he did not want a child, then why adopt her?
Prosecutor Paul Lewis QC stated that “Within two weeks of Elsie’s formal adoption by the couple, we allege that the defendant had inflicted fatal injuries upon her.”
He said, “We allege that his actions were the tragic culmination of a course of violent conduct on his part towards a defenceless child – an infant that he should have loved and protected,” he added, “but whom he instead assaulted, abused and ultimately murdered.”
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