At a workshop-style event last week, students at the University of Maryland, College Park were taught “How to F*** in College.”
Sex ed expert Francisco Ramirez, who has a master’s degree in public health and has provided sexual health training for organizations including MTV, the UN, and Planned Parenthood, taught the workshop as part of a college speaking series by the same name.
During the presentation, Ramirez used a series of GIFs to convey sexual tips ranging from how to give a blow job to how to apply lube effortlessly.
Unusual sexual advice was given throughout the workshop. Ramirez recommended that students ask their parents to purchase a mechanical hand sanitizer to dispense lube, for instance, and gave advice on how to prevent syrups from going inside a lover’s urethra when attempting the “ grapefruit technique.”
“If you’re going to be using the grapefruit technique,” he cautioned, “really make sure to use mild soap and water afterwards.”
When asked their favorite locations for sex, the students, some of whom live on campus, gleefully offered up the kitchen, the bathroom, and even “on the rug,” prompting Ramirez to recommend that they clean up after having sex, a directive that he humorously reinforced by delivering it while standing beneath a prominent image of Mr. Clean.
“I am not sexphobic but [sic] you might think it’s kinda hot seeing somebody’s pubic hair you’re kinda like [sic] feel good about that,” Ramirez told the class while animatedly flipping his hair, “but not your roommate.” He later went into further details on how his roommates would leave dildos, carrots, and a jar of peanut butter on his bed and inside his shower.
Ramirez also lectured on the stigma of the “walk of shame” and the double standards of how women are perceived when returning to their homes the morning after a sexual encounter. He then instructed students to practice their walk of shame and to “give no f—-s.”
All of the students were shy except for one flamboyant gentleman, who proudly walked down the aisles and exclaimed “give no f—-s!”
During the anonymous Q and A portion, Ramirez was asked why abstinence is not encouraged, and whether promoting sex into our culture increases the chances of rape on campus.
“It’s not like we’re either f—-ing or we’re not f—-ing or we’re masturbating or not masturbating, because at the end of the day we are all sexual beings,” he explained. “We’re already in a sexual relationship with our genitals even if we’re asexual.”
He also mentioned at one point that “most sexually active adults have an STI [sexually transmitted infection] and that’s okay.”
“What is tricky for me is to think right here is what we mean by culture of sex,” Ramirez questioned. “Do we mean sex positivity, do we mean encouraging sex…when people have sexuality education, when there is less stigma about sex, when people are more comfortable speaking up…they can feel more encouraged to report rape, to recognize rape when it happens.”
When asked about what’s missing in today’s sex education, Ramirez told Campus Reform, “More time allocated, more talk of healthy sexuality…more talk of self-determination.”
“What I think is important is to have the option of comprehensive sexuality education and I think it’s important for topics to be certainly addressed thoroughly and at the appropriate time,” he added, noting that certain topics need to be discussed with different age groups.
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